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How to make myself cry?
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i need to cry to let out the emotions, but i physically can't. my brain is not letting me. i haven't had a good cry in 3 months, and i feel like i need it. but i just can't... what can i do to start crying?
Top Comment: I thought I was the only one who can’t cry. Try making very sad fake scenarios about ur life it might help
Why do we cry?
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What are the biological advantages to crying? When we get sad we cry, but why? Is it because our eyes are drying. And why do we even cry when we get sad?
Top Comment: Because we are social creatures. You could also ask why do we laugh? While wildly different emotions they both convey information to the group. If you cry, as a child/baby (adult gender differences yield a different response) it's for a need, to be cared for, to check for injury or food or water. It's a signal to the group of need. In adults, minus social stigmas, crying still shows you need support or that you're distressed. Even if you hide and cry, it's still a very noticable look to the face, so empathetic people who notice those details still check on you. Since I brought it up, for laughter, it's also social, theories of laughing look at it as "something harmless you didn't expect" that's why there's a punch line to every joke. Hypothetically, if we're monkeys in a tree and I fall, if I cry, I'm hurt, if I fall and laugh that let's the troop know I'm okay. Going back to jokes, if there's a ruffle in the bushes, the tribe notices but doesn't know if it's a lion or a rabbit so when a rabbit jumps out, we laugh as a signal of relaxation/comfortable surprise. If it's a lion, we dead y'all, and someone is gonna be crying :/ All theoretical of course because we can't actually test these hypotheses, but it does tend to track
How often do you cry?
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I'm a 24 yo male, I've had low self esteem for as long as I remember, and last year I touched my second lowest point in my life. I've been going to a psychologist since then and I think it's helping, but I still have my highs and lows (I know is normal and a part of the process) and I find my self crying like a baby quite often
Since crying is a taboo for men, I don't know how often a normal person cries, or how often a depressed person does, and I was wondering whether I was on the high or low end of sadness
Btw I think last 365 days I cried about 1/2 times a week, considering some weeks where I did 3+ times and weeks where I never did
Top Comment: I’m a guy. I’ll weep at least once every week/few weeks. It’s okay to cry. You are a valuable and strong person, and you deserve to feel better.
I need a subreddit to make me cry.
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It's to make sure I'm not dehydrated. I have an illness, and, I want to make sure I'm not dangerously dehydrated.
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Why do I cry so easily?
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Why do I cry so easily? If I see a person crying I will cry too. It is like I can feel their pain. If I get into an argument, I will cry at times. If I imagine or talk about a hypothetical situation I find myself crying. Example, if something should happen to my mother. I found myself with tears running down my face even though it’s not real. No need to bash me in the comments. Just trying to figure something out.
Top Comment: im the exact same way, i cry over everything. like literally every single day i cry at least once
Does anyone have any tips for crying?
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I have really bad anxiety and I very rarely cry. I've been working with my therapist about how anxiety is often a blanket over emotions that are too intense to process. I find that when I am able to finally cry, my anxiety usually drops significantly. The problem is - I can't get myself to cry most of the time. Do you have any tips to get in touch with the emotions and release them?
Top Comment: Watch the 1957 film Old Yeller. It can make sad tears and happy tears.
Suddenly everything makes me cry
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So, yeah. The title already says what I want to share and understand. For years I was practically unable to cry. Only films, series, some good vocals and lyrics would be able to have me tearing up. This still happens, but now thoughts also have me tearing up quickly. Sweet thoughts. Sad thoughts. This is absolutely weird to me. I don't think it's bad. Looking at my menstrual cycle, I shouldn't be in the "emotional, hormonal" part of the cycle. So, last night I had intense flashbacks and a trauma reaction. I can see that it's got something to do with that. I don't necessarily mind crying. But I do mind crying in public, walking across the street, studying in a cafe. Anyways. Please, share your thoughts ❤️
Top Comment: Sometimes, I think as you unpack trauma it opens dormant wounds that needed to go through a process. Part of that process is a lot of grieving and anguish. We spend a undetermined amount of time bleeding from those reopened wounds. What has changed with you? Job, romance, drugs? No judgements, but usually there is a catalyst that starts the bleeding and it just takes time to regulate this overwhelming period. Crying is the fucking best. I'm a 40 year old guy and I cry at the gym, I cry at the park, I cry during bike rides. Imo, (not a expert, I'm very crazy) you have to process and let those emotions work through. Something is engaging that raw emotion and usually something breaks that fault line to open those wounds. I wish you the best. Yes, I teared up writing this; I'm bleeding everywhere lmao
What is a sign of a “cry for help” that isn’t obvious to the average person?
Main Post: What is a sign of a “cry for help” that isn’t obvious to the average person?
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Some people become very quiet and docile, like if they've resigned themselves to the minimum
Edit: I don't feel confident helping everyone here who finds this familiar, but I can say a few things with certainty:
You matter, and there's nothing inherently wrong about you. If you behaved and thought like another person, you'd be exactly like them. There is no "bad luck" or "curse". You need to reconcile with yourself and believe in your ability and potential. You're in a negative spiral which is difficult to break out of for sure, but it's not impossible, I promise.
Once you break out, all the social things will get much easier as well.
I think it's like this - you're a lovable person, but you don't have the leisure to be yourself and show yourself and open up to the world. And perhaps it is dangerous to show vulnerability in such a state, because a 100% success rate is unrealistic and some people are assholes (or have bad days, or misunderstand you, etc.)
So, I recommend doing it little by little. Small victories. Step by step. I know how a terrible mood can make it feel certain that nothing will ever be okay again. But it can, I promise again.
I managed, and I remember telling myself "If I can get out of this, anyone can". Perhaps I did it only so that I could write comments like this, helping other people? Any reason is good though, no matter how silly.
And thanks for the awards and everything, but I'd rather have you give them to somebody else.